The 3 C's of Stress Relief: Clarity, Calm and Courage

 Let's face it...everybody has stress in their life. No matter what your profession, station in life or age...we all have to deal with stressful, complicated circumstances. Things change in our life, but how we learn to cope with stress and weather the changes is so important. It is also different for each and every person.

I am currently dealing with some stressful situations in my life and learning to cope with the situation has produced for me a mantra of sorts to help me keep focused on what is important:Clarity, Calm, Courage. I know that the concept of using mantras for meditation is a traditional Buddhist concept but I think the cross-over to guided Christian prayer is a good connection.  Sometimes I don't know how to pray for help, but I know that using this mantra has helped me not only stay focused, but help reduce my stress levels. 

And with a history of depression and bi-polar episodes, I know quite a bit about monitoring and helping to diminish my own stress levels. People need to be able to gauge their own body signals and determine when they are getting close to the "tipping point." I like to think I have learned to do this for myself and have established ways to manage stress. Reminds me of one of my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quotes:

A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it's in hot water.” 

The 3 C's mantra is just the latest technique that I have developed for my arsenal. Sometimes good things come out of pressure and stressful situations. There is a preponderance of information about mantras, meditation and using them to provide clarity and mental well being. I found some information that helps to back up my supposition of  the benefits of using mantras. Yet, as you can imagine there is so much information that it would not fit into the limitations of one blog. I picked one of my personal favorites to highlight: Om Shanti. 

Om Shanti is perhaps one of the most well known and accessible mantras used today. So, what does Om Shanti mean? There’s actually no direct translation for Om Shanti. That’s because Om isn’t so much as a word as it is a sound, a feeling, and an energetic resonance.So, what about Shanti? Well, Shanti is a Sanskrit word that means, “Peace.” Together, the phrase: Om Shanti is meant to convey: Universal Peace.The use of mantras is beneficial, so I came up with my own: Clarity, Calm and Courage in helping me brave the stress of recent events. It has helped me immensely. 

That first word is so important:CLARITY. So many times a complicated issue just needs time for the dust to settle and solutions can present themselves if given time and quiet speculation. This powerful word of "clarity" first was presented to me by some lovely ladies in my Bible study group. (Thanks Lisa and Nancy) I am so thankful for the clarity and caring that I receive from this group.

The next word is CALM.  This is where the concept of deep breathing, relaxation techniques and meditation comes in. My first exposure to learning how to "breath" was in Lamaze classes so many years ago. In through the nose, and slowly out through pursed lips. It helped me in giving birth and still helps me to relax today. With the inhale and exhale it has been beneficial to me to visualize a word to help with the cleansing and relaxation process.  I heard in a sermon a few weeks ago about using the word GRACE on the inhale to "take in God's grace" and exhale with "GIVING" your burdens to God. It really is quite healing and relaxing ....you should try it.

COURAGE is what brings you the strength to put one foot in front of the other and face the challenges before you.  I am mindful of an inspirational saying prominently displayed on a magnet on my fridge: "Courage does not always roar. sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying. "I will try again tomorrow".  (Mary Anne Radmacher) My friend Joan gave it to me several years ago and it truly is an inspiration to me...Thanks Joan! 

Yet courage for me also is sharing these thoughts in a blog. Sometimes perhaps it feels a bit self-serving and in some ways that is true. Writing for me is therapy. Yet, I sincerely hope that in sharing these thoughts, someone will feel encouraged and inspired as to help them with the stresses in their life. Just remember....don't forget to breath deeply and things will eventually work out. Perhaps not the way you envisioned, but, This too shall Pass......Use the 3 C's to help you on the Journey.

Julie E. Smith

The Joy Of Sex.....I mean the Joy of the "To Do" List .....

 Oh, now that I have your attention....there is a wonderful satisfaction from making a list and completing everything on said list.  Granted it may not be as great as sex but there is wonderful sense of accomplishment when I successfully complete my list.  Admit it...if you saw a title of a blog just about List Making....ho-hum..but Sex always sells. Maybe they should make grocery lists with provocative pictures. That would liven up the trip to the store for a sometimes mundane task.

Nevertheless, I am a strong believer in the power of To Do lists.  First and foremost the most obvious advantage is that it organizes your thoughts and helps prioritize what really needs to be done and what can be postponed.  Then a list creates a sense of accomplishment when you can cross each task off the list. Even if our list is comprised of tasks that you do every week, it feels like getting a pat on the back when you cross "Clean bathrooms" off the list.  And if by some miracle you complete the whole list? Victory!! Throw it out and start the cycle again for next week.  I say next week, because I think it is a whole lot easier to do weekly lists. Even though my husband and I are not in the traditional 9 to 5 routine, it became ingrained in my psyche to do the bulk of the household chores and projects on the weekends. Back in the day when I worked 40 hours a week, many things were saved for the weekend...hence the weekend list. Funny how things like that stick with you over time. I probably wouldn't think of vacuuming or cleaning the bathrooms on a day other than Saturday. I know...kinda weird.  Sometimes we are creatures of habit. However, I bet I am not the only one who enjoys the functionality and goal setting joys of list making!

Some folks use their phones for lists...Not me, no way...I love the simple joy of taking pen to paper. I have oodles of notepads around the house and I never hesitate to buy more. It is truly amazing that any place you travel, little gift shops have souvenir notepads to help as a remembrance of your journey. How lovely it is to write "Dust Living Room" against the backdrop of the majestic mountains of Glacier National Park. So lovely to remember trips when you use a notepad for routine tasks.  I even was given  a notepad from Greece from when my Sister-in-Law visited there. Thanks Christy!

A sampling of a few of my favorites

So an article in Forbes magazine about time management (published 0n 7/20/20 by Kevin Leyes, Forbes Business Council) lists the top 9 ways for efficient time management. While trying not to sound too smug....just guess what was at the top of the list: "Prepare a task list." Here is the excerpt from that article that confirms my assertion and lets me know that I'm not obsessive....just trying to get my life organized. It also has some helpful pointers:

"1. Prepare a task list. Whether daily or weekly, preparing a task list will help you identify all the activities you need to accomplish or situations you need to solve. Every morning before you start the day, go through your list and try to adjust your time for each item. Making this list will make it easier for you to outline the tasks assigned for the day and plan to get them done. Eventually, you can get into the habit of spending a healthy amount of time on work."

I will say that as a writer I have suffered from writers block and perhaps it seems lame, but I am starting to feel all my list making counts as writing. Why not? It allows my mind to focus on tasks that need attending to and many times working on my blogs or ideas for my next book is often on my To Do List. And when it's on my list....by golly it gets done. Finishing this blog was on my list, guess that helped me "Git er done!" (author's note:must be spoken with Texas drawl)  Perhaps the book wouldn't be completely done by the end of the list, but work on it would transpire.  All Hail the Power of the List!

Brain Training.......insights into the Art of Self Hypnosis

 

I was diagnosed several years ago with Bi-Polar Depression; that is much easier to say than "I am Bi-Polar."  It may just be a matter of semantics, but to me it feels more like something I deal with on a day to day basis as part of my personality instead of an "affliction". In any case, over the years I have had plenty of experience and therapy for learning techniques for calming my Bi-Polar brain activity.  Even if one is not Bi-Polar....let's face it, we all have issues. If we can generate the ability to center ourselves and calm our minds it's very beneficial in this chaotic world we live in.

Sigmund Freud--1921

I am not the master of utilizing hypnosis as taught by Sigmund Freud, the "master" of hypnotic therapy, but I am able to use several of his pioneering techniques.  It's interesting that I always thought of Freud as the "Father" of hypnotherapy, but research on the topic reveals that in the latter part of the 18th century Franz Mesmer, a German physician began developing healing techniques based on hypnosis. Then in the late 1880's, Freud was impressed by the therapeutic techniques of hypnosis and their potential use for healing neurotic disorders.  Like many techniques, in the light of new knowledge, Freud abandoned the use of hypnosis in 1896 and formulated the use of psychoanalysis.

Just like many techniques for healing and wellness change, our quest today for a healthy mind continues and it's interesting how the tools for achieving nirvana have changed.  With the ever-present dependence on our phones and technology...it is no surprise that many apps have surfaced for meditation in our busy lives.  An internet search shows that there are at least 15 available apps to be used to facilitate meditation and mindfulness.

 

When I looked through many of these apps they sound so appealing with exercises generated to produce a sense of calm.  Yet, when you get to the "bottom line", a monthly fee (with amazing ranges on amounts!) will be required after your "free trial" period. Well, that does not help me eliminate stress.  I think I can learn how to breath and practice free association without adding to the STRESS of having another monthly bill to pay.  Yet, among those programs, I did find one that was very intriguing and yes it was free...always. It is called Smiling Mind.  I downloaded and have tried it several times. It is a pretty impressive program with all different age groups in mind.  It is also includes specialized programs for educators and healthcare workers. I really like it and am encouraged by it...and I don't even have to stress over a monthly bill. Another interesting thing about this app is that you have the choice of a Male or Female voice. I initially choice female...like a friend talking to me. However I may need to change it because she sounds so much like the GPS in my car.  I expect her at any minute to say turn left at the end of the road. SIGH...oh, the strange idiosyncrasies of modern technology.

Another technique I have learned for calming and meditation (and in my case usually an aid to sleep) is the use of deep breathing and the use of a one word chant. Using just one word helps your mind funnel down to what is really important. Use one word to INHALE, then another word on the EXHALE. The words that I use, and the simplicity of this simple exercise,  came to to me as an inspiration from our Pastor.  He recommended to inhale and think of God's Grace, then on the exhale give your worries and pain to God.  So for purposes of simplicity, I use Inhale:GRACE, then Exhale: PAIN. It almost always works for me.

Tai Chi at Sunset

So no one can deny the strong body/mind connection. Yoga is a perfect example of how this practice can be used not only for physical well being, but to enhance mindfulness through meditation. As an overweight, older woman with bad knees....my Yoga days are pretty much over. Yet I absolutely love the practice of Tai Chi. It helps balance, strength, focus and definitely helps foster a sense of calm. I have taken several classes in recent years, but have yet to find classes since I moved. I'm thinking a DVD of it just wouldn't be the same. My quest for a Tai Chi class continues.

So every individual has differing needs to maintain their mental health and overall well-being. I would be interested to hear my Dear Readers your techniques to wellness. Also, there are so many options out there...do you have a favorite?  So don't forget to breath and if at all possible...RELAX.

 

An Extrovert Living in an Introverted World

On the spectrum of Extroverted or Introverted I have always been classified as leaning more on the Extroverted side.  I remember my Mother telling me that I could strike up a conversation with just about anyone at any given time....and make it a good conversation for both people. It's a gift, or a curse...depending on the circumstance. 

Our world has become Introverted, temporarily anyway...due to the infamous Pandemic of 2020.  Now the calendar has turned, the vaccinations are rolling out, cases of COVID-19 are decreasing and there appears to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Yet, sometimes I still can't wrap my head around the concept of not shaking hands, not getting close for conversation and most of all NOT hugging your closest friends and family. As a "people person" and Extrovert, I am really starting to suffer. In the long run, I know I will be OK, but sometimes it feels like an uphill battle.

So in the process of waiting for "herd immunity" to be firmly established I have increased the time spent on solitary tasks and hobbies. I always enjoyed Facebook, but EGAD...I have to confess I have seen way too many cat videos and photos of: "try this new dessert!" I have had enough problems with putting on the pandemic pounds; that does not help. Yet, everyday I still keep scrolling. In small doses it is still a fun pastime when you can't have in person conversations.  Of course both of my blogs have had several  posts since this all began and I am happy to report I completed by book on the National Park Service.  OK...here is my shameless plug on that: available on Amazon: "A Walk in the Park...Journeys through our Nation's Greatest Treasures" . It was a fun book to research and write, and a good book if I do say so myself. (Would an Introvert say that? Hmmmm...) Here''s the link: https://www.amazon.com/Walk-Park-Journeys-Greatest-Treasures/dp/1792837771/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=A+Walk+in+the+Park…Journeys+through+our+Nation%27s+Treasures&qid=1611349971&sr=8-1

I also have started a new quilt, which I am hopeful will be beautiful when complete. But I fear that as soon as my world starts opening up with my social activities, the quilt may be put by the wayside. Perhaps it will become a project for next winter, not a project for the next pandemic...let's hope there will never be another as awful as this.

Either way you perceive yourself, an Introvert or Extrovert....which ever side of the fence you lean, I thought this Clint Eastwood meme was great. Everyone can relate to that and it really brought me a chuckle. If I recall, I think that looks like his film Gran Torino. You can't help but like Clint...a classic.

In any case, there are both Extroverts and Introverts struggling to get through this particular time in our history. So many believe that Introverts are able to handle the isolation of this pandemic better then Extroverts.  But a recent study suggests the opposite, according to a Forbes article. The study, conducted by Virginia-based research consultancy, Greater Divide, surveyed 1,000 American adults and found that those who scored higher on the measure of extroversion were less likely to be experiencing mental health issues due to stay-at-home or quarantine measures.

Some experts contribute the surprising results to extroversion being associated with more positive emotions, optimism and resiliency, while introversion has been linked to more nervousness and fear. The uncertainty of this pandemic may be more difficult for introverts.While the study suggests that extroverts may be handling the pandemic better than expected, it does not mean they are immune to anxiety or stress from the stay-at-home order. Both personality traits have faced mental health challenges during the quarantine and are stressed in their own ways. That being said, it would be good to support each other, no matter what our personality traits may be....

Big changes are coming our way and I am thinking we have much to look forward to. Additionally, the fact that spring is right around the corner always brings folks a sunnier outlook.  Start planning those flower beds!😄        Julie E . Smith

What a HOT MESS...Health Insurance crisis in America

 I have done everything I am supposed to do, but I am still stuck with 100% of the bill.  I sent mountains of paperwork, requests for documentations, emails and phone calls and things are STILL pending after 8 months time.  I  have jumped through hoops, paid my premiums on time but to no avail. I feel like the only one listening anymore at this point is my own blog. So here I am. For what it is worth I need to document everything that has transpired for purposes of clarity in my own mind....if nothing else.  Hopefully this can help me somehow find a solution. 

I never thought of myself to be an expert on the topic of health insurance, but I have had personal experience...devastating, aggravating experience these past five years to be able to speak first hand on the topic and also knowing that so many people are in true need of better coverage and also better ways of processing claims. Good Lord, there must be a better way.

So to really get a grasp on my incredible frustration, it's good to understand why I have had 4 different insurance companies in the past 5 years.  My husband retired about 5 years ago and this affected my coverage because I was previously on his work place insurance plan. So I had to find my own insurance plan that we could afford on his pension and social security. My husband is currently happily using Medicare and has not had any difficulty.  I am still too young for Medicare so am struggling to find something workable in the mean time. 

Summing it up, I found that you either get great coverage but pay incredibly high premiums (sometimes $750-$800 for individual coverage!), or if you pay lower premiums (at one point I was paying $119.28 per month) it doesn't cover much and you end up basically with "Catastrophic Risk" only.  Although sometimes I was able to achieve a lower premium through the Marketplace, sometimes known as the Affordable Care Act.  This was all well and good...it was a great way to assure that people could have access to affordable health insurance.  In theory it was great, a "premium tax credit" was extended to you on a monthly basis so your monthly premiums were MUCH lower, making it easier to budget from month to month. But when tax time rolled around....Yikes, we had to pay all those credits back to the government. I guess you have to pay it now or pay it later. So that was a punch in the gut that year. Quite a shock to have to pay over $8,000 just in insurance premium credits.

So fast forward to the story of my current medical insurance crisis. With the help of a local insurance broker, I found what I thought would be good, basic coverage at a reasonable  cost:$527/monthly. Wisconsin Physicians Service (WPS) was the insurer providing the policy as "short term medical coverage". However when I made a claim for the removal of some endometrial polyps (which were non-cancerous...thank goodness!) they proceeded with a barrage of requests for documentation which ultimately resulted in denial of the claim as a pre-exsisting condition.  I have had a uterus all my life, does that make it preexisting?!? I never had problems like this until recently. 

 

I took the time, for my own records as well as accurate documentation of the "drama" with WPS to create a timeline of everything that transpired with the processing of this claim. I started with day one of when I started the policy and began paying premiums.  As a policy holder, and a person who paid all her premiums, I documented everything on the processing of this claim. Every phone call, every email, every letter. I was told by more than one person: "Oh, you have done everything you are supposed to do, you just have to wait."  It occurred to me however, that I have no way of documenting what did or did not happen at WPS or the hospital records department.  I did everything I could possibly do to properly process the claim. Looking at an overview of the timeline, (Which happens to be almost 4 pages long...)makes one realize all the crap I have been through in the last 8 months.   Somebody is dropping the ball, and it is not the policy holder.  Again, I did everything I was supposed to do and I still get stuck with the bill. Am I supposed to hire an attorney and pay them MORE money on top of all the premiums that have been thrown out the window??! I think NOT.

At this point, to appease the hospital's requirements for adjusting the total to an "uninsured patient", I have applied for state aid. I'm not sure what the future of this claim will be but I am incredibly frustrated because I feel my medical provider is missing the whole point: I was insured at the time of the surgery. Why should I be penalized because the insurance company did not pay a routine claim from a policy holder that paid all her premiums!

I am now dealing with being uninsured, trying to stay healthy and hope to Hell I can stay that way till I turn 65 and can be on Medicare. That is one thing in our country that seems to be working well....Thank you very much Lyndon B. Johnson.

I know there are no easy solutions for the health insurance crisis and escalating pharmaceutical costs that every American has to deal with, and I don't pretend to understand how to "fix" things. Of course there is also the issue of cost containment with medical procedures. There are several reasons that a 20 minute outpatient procedure costs $10,000 but for the life of me I can't figure out why....Yet, just understanding how this affects so many people in very real ways provides a pathway for change. Just writing this blog has been therapeutic for me; it allows me to put things in perspective and also confirms my supposition that Health insurance in America is a HOT MESS.

So I will end this blog the way I began....

 I have done everything I am supposed to do, but I am still stuck with 100% of the bill.

Julie E. Smith 

"Aging Gracefully" ?? Not sure I have perfected that yet...

 There is a quote from Hunter S. Thompson (the ultimate  cool "Hippie", I think ) that proclaims: 

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!” 

 I have always loved that quote and perhaps I don't ascribe to it quite literally, but it does paint a pretty good picture of a life philosophy that I can get behind.  I really abhor the concept of "slowing down" as we age unless it means literally walking a little slower....I can see that. Yet, if it means doing less and not exploring new things in life, well THAT I don't agree with. Things get "tweaked" along the way, but to me it is such a good feeling to remind myself that just because I am "older" doesn't mean I have to rein in my actions and "act my age". Rather, I have learned from past mistakes and the wisdom that comes from living. For example, the best cure to prevent a hangover is to drink lots of water and aspirin before you hit the hay. Good luck to you if you are too drunk to remember this one, you probably deserve a little pain the next day. Yet, of course age and experience tells us that moderation is the key for maximum enjoyment. That holds true for many things in life other than just alcohol consumption.

It has been said that "Youth is wasted on the Young" There is something to be said for that, because there are things that I was able to do easily as a younger person, that I wish I could do now. That brings me to the "re-inventing" idea. Yes, there are things that we can't do that we did when we were younger, but many doors open up to as life circumstances change. 

Betty Friedan, one of my favorite feminist writers, said it well when she reminded us: "Aging is not lost youth, but a new stage of Opportunity and Strength"   She had a wonderful way of opening our eyes and bringing clarity to things right before us. That statement on aging brings to me a sense of joy and also a sense of resolve. As life circumstances change, so do new opportunities. A perfect example of that from my life is the start of my writing career. When my husband retired from the corporate working world, I "retired" too and started to embark on my passion of writing. I was too young to retire, but nevertheless was delighted that I could delve into my passions: writing and photography. And I'm not dead yet....but what What A Ride it has been so far!

Sometimes we have to re-invent ourselves through the years with both careers and on a personal level.  Change is seldom easy, often quite hard. Yet one's attitude towards change can soften the blow if you view it as an opportunity for growth.  Ever been fired from a job that you thought was just perfect for you? I have, and in hindsight it was NOT perfect and getting fired forced me to move on to bigger and yes better things. This is another example of how wisdom that comes with age, and experience, really does make you grow as a person.

Yes, this is a pretty philosophical post, perhaps even a note of encouragement. But young or old at this point we could all use a little encouragement and it might be good advice to Enjoy the Ride!  CHEERS!          Julie E. Smith

What's My Line??

All my life I have had vivid dreams and I almost always remember them. Sometimes they make sense, but sometimes they are apparently just my brain taking a little "siesta" from the day to day struggles and triumphs. Last night I had a dream that I believe was helping me deal with some of the anxieties of recent events in Washington. Everyone's anxiety at this time is compounded by the situation of dealing with the corona virus, racial tensions and everything else that put 2020 on the history books.

My dream, on the surface, doesn't seem to have anything to do with the storming of our US Capitol and what will become of Donald Trump....but if you dig a little deeper I think it was more profound then meets the eye. It certainly helped ease my anxiety....a bit. So in the dream I was an actress in a Shakespearean play and I was suffering from the worst stage fright: I kept forgetting my lines and when I was supposed to say them.  In between acts, the man who was playing the "King" (not sure what play it was...just felt like Shakespeare) pulled me aside and said "Look, don't worry so much...I am really drunk and forgetting my lines too! Smell my breath...You and I both know the story and we know how it ends. We can just Wing It. Just say what you feel like saying and the story will get told."

Interesting premise, but in the dream it gave me a surprising sense of calm. It felt good knowing that by "winging it" we could get the job done in the best manner we could and the play would still be completed. And also completed with alot less anxiety. Yet, in real life we don't know how the story will end. Many people have forgotten their "lines" or they are saying what is perceived as the wrong ones. As a nation, we just hope that the correct decisions will be made to move forward.  Many current events will have a profound effect (for the better we hope) on how our government operates.

 Yes, the times are troubling and we have to work together to make things better. However,  I strongly believe that individuals need to take care of themselves...and their mental health...FIRST, if they are to be successful, fully functioning members of society. I am not advocating apathy, but I do believe sometimes we need to take a step back and let the dust settle before we get too emotionally involved.  I think that was what my dream was trying to help me with: coping mechanisms.  It has been said before: 10 years from now....what will really stand out as important?

I'm not a therapist, but I do know a thing or two about dealing with anxiety.  Listen to your dreams, they may be trying to tell you something.               Julie E. Smith

Living on the 45th Parallel

It's funny how a simple activity, like trying a new restaurant for lunch, can spur a whole new level of conversation and pique my need to look into a topic further. Sometimes, it goes beyond: "Oh, this pizza is really yummy." Recently, my husband and I went to a local restaurant called the 45th Parallel. As you can imagine, the conversation turned to where we are living, on the 45th parallel, and why is that significant? More about this unique restaurant and distillery later...

 So at the forefront of our discussion was the fact that Yes...we are roughly, geographically living on the 45th parallel in this area of Wisconsin.  It is significant for several reasons. First of all, C'mon...it just sounds cool: I live on the 45th Parallel. Sounds like the making of a great Sci-Fi drama, in conjunction with Area 51. But more seriously, it is significant because it is generally the half way point between the Equator and the North pole.   The 45th parallel latitude circumvents the globe and passes through the northern part of the United States, Europe, Asia and both the Pacific and Atlantic. In the U.S., only 4 states lie entirely north of the 45th parallel: Alaska, Washington, Montana (almost) and North Dakota.

In my state of Wisconsin, and many parts of Michigan, the proximity to the 45th parallel has become somewhat of a novelty and to some extent...a tourist attraction. Perhaps not in and of itself, but when combined with a really great restaurant and/or bar you've got yourself an attraction.  In Cadott, Wisconsin (located northeast of Eau Claire in Chippewa County) the sign welcoming visitors proclaims their status on the 45th, and also is the town's official slogan: "Half-Way Between the Equator and North Pole". 

Those of us that live on the 45th parallel, in the Midwest anyway...know that there is more to the attraction then just a line on a map. The climate and the beauty of the terrain here makes even the winters not so terrible. There is nothing quite like seeing the snow blanketing the branches of incredibly tall majestic pines. I remember when we moved up here, our cousin Al said: "Welcome to God's Country" and I am sure he said something at the time about living North of the 45th.

45th Parallel marker,Wisconsin Historical Society

 

So markers informing travelers of their locations on the 45th parallel can be found from Maine to Washington. The oldest known 45th parallel marker is in Maine. Many of the markers in Wisconsin were placed originally in the 1930's by a newspaper editor by the name of Frank E. Noyes. Several of the plaques bear his name and date.  So interesting to see a part of history and know that your footsteps are becoming a part of that history. Here is a photo of one of those markers placed on Hwy 141, 3 miles north of Lena, Wisconsin. 

When I looked up information on the topic, I found that it is not just cartographers who are interested in this phenomena, but historians and even vintners. It is probably not a coincidence that some of the best vineyards in the world, both in the US and Italy, are along the 45th parallel. Apparently the climate along that part of the globe is conducive for establishing vineyards and other crops.  Not just grapes for wine, but also hops and grains for other fermented beverages.  That brings me back to how the thoughts on this topic got started: a terrific lunch at The 45th Parallel.

I had a brief talk with Paul Werni, the founder of The 45th Parallel in New Richmond, Wisconsin. I led with the question that is perhaps on many customer's minds: are we really exactly on the 45th Parallel right here?  Pretty darn close: about 7 miles from the exact latitude. Yet, Paul said that the only farm that they get their grain from, Rusmar Farm, for the distillery is only about 8 miles from here and the 45th Parallel runs right through their land. Cool. Paul also explained that when they opened, in 2007, there were only 50 distilleries in the U.S. Now there are over 1,600.

45th Parallel Distillery: New Richmond, Wi.

I'm hoping to go back again someday soon for perhaps a tour and hope to sample some of that "Richmond Rye" whiskey. Sounds great! When we were there, we just sampled the lunch menu, and did not have time for further sampling. Hope to go back when we have time to savor the flavor of a smooth bourbon by the fire. For more information on The 45th Parallel Distillery, check out their website at: http://www.45thparalleldistillery.com  In the mean time, I find the simple joy in knowing that I am one of the 4% of the population that live on (or above) the 45th parallel. CHEERS!

Julie E. Smith

 

 

 

 

 

Looking for the Silver Lining

 

" I got that sunshine in my pocket
Got that good soul in my feet......Feeling good, good, creeping up on you
So just dance, dance, dance
Come on"   

                 "Can't Stop the Feeling" by Justin Timberlake

 I just had to lead this with one of my favorite feel good songs.  We could all use a little bit of feeling good about right now. Everybody knows what we are grappling with in American life right now...I don't need to list the variety of things that 2020 has brought upon us.  So many things have come to crush our spirits and make it hard some days to put one foot in front of the other.  So when something comes along that can lift our spirits....I feel it is worthy of note. Something that can bring a word of encouragement, lifts you up,  and then leaves you with a little sunshine in your pocket.

I felt compelled to write this blog because of an inspirational sermon by our Pastor today. Pastor Garth has a way of inspiring others and also encouraging us to think about things that perhaps we might not have thought about. Today was a perfect example of sometimes we have to be prodded to think about  things that might otherwise be considered inconsequential. 

Our Pastor today talked about our God given talents and how we can use them to not only improve our own lives, but the lives of the people we touch. Most people find it hard to identify their own talents. One has to look long and hard within and be honest with yourself in finding those talents. Garth explained that proclaiming your talents is not bragging, but rather it is holding yourself accountable for using the gifts that God has given you.   An important verse highlighting this is from 1 Peter 4:10  As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace.

So today's sermon inspired me to look hard at my talents and see what I could do to help utilize them.  As it has been said, the hardest thing of all is determining first what your talent is before you put it to work.  So here I am at the keyboard, working away at what I perceive is one of my talents. I have yet to write the next "Great American novel", but I think sometimes I manage to put some thought provoking words on paper.

So when I was younger, I remember several relatives telling me Julie had the "gift of gab". Somehow that gift has transformed into a gift for storytelling and writing (with the modern day version of 2 blogs). I still find it hard to think of myself as a "talented" writer, but if I can use that gift or talent to inspire or encourage others than without a doubt...I will. 

Another gift I have, I often try to interweave in my writing:Optimism. I have frequently been told that I have a gift, or talent, of looking at the bright side and looking for the proverbial silver lining. I think it is a good thing to be more positive, but one also needs to be practical and have a pragmatic approach sometimes. Looking through the world always through rose colored glasses can blind you to the dangers that inevitability exist in our world. Yet, looking for the positive can help to diminish those things in the world that can pull us down. I am not a Polly Anna, but a Realist.  I try to use both my gifts of optimism and writing in a way as to hopefully help those that I can.  And I believe the glass is always half full. Cheers!

Travel 2020 in the age of Covid-19

 

Honeymoon Rock-Apostle Islands, Wisconsin

My Husband and I just returned from a "mini vacation", only 3 days, from a lovely state park relatively close to us and also the beautiful Apostle Islands on Lake Superior.  Like many people at this time, the COVID-19 pandemic has taken its toll on our spirits and we certainly did not expect the current situation to last as long as it has.  Yet we carry on and keep on hoping for the situation to improve...and I am optimistic that YES it will. Eventually.

But in the mean time, we all have to be gentle with ourselves and do things to help our mental health and keep us going.  I have a great love of travel and the great outdoors, so I thought this would be a terrific way for some rejuvenation. It was a great trip, but it was so different in so many ways. Just like many things in 2020, it will be remembered as a time period when radical changes in our lifestyles happened almost overnight.  Time will tell how history will remember this time period, but as the people who have lived through it....we will remember it in a multitude of ways-both good and bad.

On our trip we noticed what has become commonplace across this country: The Magic Three to fight COVID-19:

1. ) Mask usage
2. ) Hand washing and liberal use of hand sanitizer
3. ) Required social distancing

We followed the rules, as best we could, I have no complaints there. I know doing these things are what we do as a community to help stop the spread. Yet, what is most disturbing to me is how utilizing these guardians of our physical health most certainly change our behavior and our mental health. We know it's the "right thing to do", but some of the behaviors that we are expected to follow feel foreign to most people, especially those of us that crave human interaction with our fellow human beings.

Probably the best illustration of this is how awkward it can become to maintain that recommended 6 foot distance in a "touristy" area. When we were walking out and about, enjoying the sights with our fellow travelers, people tried really hard to avoid getting too close to others. This is a good thing at this juncture, but normally when you are visiting an interesting city or park, it's part of the experience to share observations with others. You probably will never see these people again, but for the moment you are immersed in the mutual experience together. So during this pandemic it just feels so odd to avoid eye contact with people and walk on the curb or even in the street to avoid sharing the sidewalk. As I said, people were trying to do the right thing, but it just feels odd and in my opinion distracts from the joy of the trip.

At the state park people frequently avoided even making eye contact with others. It was just weird, not how I remember a beautiful walk in the woods is supposed to be with fellow hikers. Granted,  I am not discounting the extreme importance of the social distancing, mask wearing and hand washing.  We all need to do our part...and many people, myself included, are trying their hardest to do what is best for everyone to stop this horrible virus. I'm just saying it feels so weird right now.  And when you go on "vacation", you would think you can take a "vacation" from reality...but in this circumstance- NO. Because for awhile anyway, this is our new reality.

Masks have become standard uniform when going out into the world and we are learning to adjust, but sometimes it is hard to read people's body language with half their face covered. As it has been said: Eyes are the Mirrors of the Soul. This is true now more than ever. Sometimes we can smile with our eyes if people can't see our mouth. Try it right now as you read these words...it's good practice because it's nice to smile with your eyes in appreciation if you have a mask on. We had a waitress on this past trip that was so lovely and she had perfected the art of smiling with her eyes and her mask was intact the whole time. It also helps to talk with your hands a bit more. Almost everyone can appreciate an encouraging thumbs up like this little fellow.

Vacations are always a break from our routine, and this one was too. This trip, by car,  was just the tip of the travel iceberg; I can't even image air travel yet....not sure what that will be like. However, some say this may be the best time to fly because airlines are very meticulous with sanitation and not overbooking flights. We shall see, but I personally don't plan on flying anytime soon.  We enjoyed our short car trip and enjoyed the opportunity to see some new places, take lots of fun photos and have the fun of trying new restaurants. Something as simple as a walk in the woods made me realize we can all benefit from being gentle with ourselves and doing something special to survive 2020. As many companies have stated, in one way or another, "We are all in this together".......(but 6 feet apart...Ha-Ha) Stay Safe, Stay Happy.  Thumbs Up!  JES

What do you do on a Rainy Day?

As I write these words, it’s 90 degrees, humid and the scorching sun is burning all the grass up and down our block. So the thought of some cooling rain sounds pretty good right now. Yet, I am using the Rainy Day metaphor to compare it to our current situation of the 2020 Corona virus requiring us to “shelter in place” and keep our social distancing when we are required to go out.  Well, the COVID 19 has become our “Rainy Day” (or more accurately months…) Of course I understand the necessity of quarantining ourselves to stop the spread of the virus, but to me it seems reminiscent of being stuck in the house on a rainy day. Both kids and parents can understand the frustration of being cooped up too long. Also think back when you were a little kid inside on a rainy day…what types of indoor fun did you participate in?

So here are a few fun ideas to try to help us all get through these “Rainy Days”:

•   Movie night: pull out those DVDs or the modern version might be finding some favorites on Netflix. 
•   Cook something special, what a perfect time to try a new recipe. Although sometimes cooking an old favorite can be beneficial too. Ahhh, nothing like a favorite cookie recipe and it’s not even Christmas yet!
•  Dance Party: Put on your favorite music and get the wiggles out. As they say: Dance like no one’s looking!
•  If there are young kids in your household….how about a blanket fort- remember those as a kid? So fun to construct your very only little place.
•  Pull out the board games and puzzles that have not been tried in awhile.
•  Take this time to pursue your favorite craft or hobby.  As a scrapbooker, I have completed ooodles of work on my albums during this time of “shelter in place.” It also might be a good time to start up a new hobby. Inspired by our church youth group, I painted and put inspirational words on various rocks. They have become a nice addition to my garden.
•   And last, but certainly not least, take a few minutes every day to read scriptures, your favorite devotional book and remember the Lord with prayer. These are tough times we are going through, but seeking shelter in our faith helps to keep us going.

Psalm 46:1-2 – "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea."  

A New Normal

How many times have I heard: we will just have to get used to a "New Normal" ...what does that mean? Coming out of isolation and learning how to "safely" relate to people again in the midst of this 2020 Pandemic is hard...really hard.  I guess in some ways we feel like a bear coming out of hibernation. We really need to get out again. That is true, but we are not hungry like bears, after all the grocery stores were all open as an essential business. Snacking while binge watching Netflix was a hibernation tactic. Yup, I gained about 7 lbs, but am slowly getting back on track. It's amazing how many cute hibernation jokes there are...here's a cute one, because humor always seems to help.

Yet, in spite of all the frustrations of late, the pandemic and race riots of 2020 have hopefully instigated some new changes that are surprisingly refreshing when we view them as instruments of change.... change for the better. I like to think we all learn to appreciate those we love, both friends and family, especially when we can't see them as often as we would like. Of course, being aware of safe health practices to prevent the spread of disease is always a good reminder. And just when we were beginning to learn our New Normal everyone's world got turned upside down by the terrible death of George Floyd at the hands of a Minneapolis police officer. Then violent protests and riots erupted in many major cities across the country. Every American was affected in one way or another by these events and the disturbing images witnessed on TV and with our own eyes create both sorrow and anger. We can only hope that these events help us move towards a better tomorrow.

As I think about these events on a personal level, I try to reexamine by own core beliefs and hope that I can relate to all my fellow humans equitably and equally. Also, as a writer...I think it's odd that during this isolation of the pandemic one would think that I would have all this time on my hands to write away and produce huge amounts of work.....Ahhh...maybe not so much. Sometimes I work better when I have more outside stimuli. I have worked on my National Parks book some. My goal was to complete it in 2020, but so far 2020 has been a really challenging and weird year. So we shall see what happens.

 So moving forward, I guess we could all ease into the New Normal however that is defined. I want to be optimistic and if history tells us anything, good things can come out of bad circumstances. Keep looking for that silver lining. Julie E. Smith

Surviving "Shelter in Place"

I am a people person, always have been. So with the social constraints and expectations required to help our society contain the current pandemic: the Coronavirus-2020, I am sure I am not the only one feeling anxiety and frustration.  It's also interesting to note that the name of the virus seems to have morphed from Coronavirus to COVID-19. Several people still refer to it as the Coronavirus; it's easier to remember with the name of a good beer attached to it. Perhaps the folks at Corona don't like that...but hey, any publicity is good publicity. Not sure how this time period will go down in the history books: COVID-19 or Coronavirus...that remains to be seen. The thing I miss the most during this "shelter in place" and social distancing is seeing people, talking face to face and of course hugs. I am a hugger. There is something about a hug that fills up your "tank" and replenishes your soul.

So during this isolating period, since I can't see friends and family, I can do another coping mechanism: writing. So here I am at the keyboard talking about surviving the Coronavirus 2020. I promise not to tell you to wash your hands...you know that already. How many times have we been told that? What I will say is do something you love that will lift your spirits. We all must remember that this too shall pass and we can return to our "normal" lives. Maybe when we return, it will give us a greater appreciation for the simple things like a warm handshake from a business acquaintance, or a warm and comforting hug from a dear friend.

In  making an effort to do all these things, we are told that our efforts help to minimize the spread of the virus and help to "flatten the curve." I really hope that is the case. It is disheartening to watch the news and hear that many of the diagnosed cases keep increasing.  We like to believe...we WANT to believe that our efforts to minimize the virus do help.  Without these efforts, the pandemic would be worse. Yet, the impending assault on the economy and the livelihoods of so many people is just as scary as the virus itself. Mental health professionals say to only watch the news once or twice a day; that is sufficient to obtain all the information you need without an information overload and diving into depression.  I am not glued to CNN, but wow it is very easy to get overwhelmed.

So when one is overwhelmed, it's best to pursue something that brings you comfort. I blog. I journal. I pray. So many churches, my own included, have revised their services to bring messages of comfort and some feelings of "normalcy" to their congregations via various forms of video conferencing.  We viewed our Pastor's last video sermon and he did a great job. It was kind of fun to attend church in my pajamas...yet I miss the fellowship, and HUGS, of fellow worshipers.

The Coronavirus pandemic came at a strange time (it's never a good time) for my husband and I because we were in the midst of a move. Our closing at the real estate office was completed without a hitch...but it was just weird. No handshakes, very few people and we even got disinfected pens that were individually sealed to sign documents with.  I appreciated everyone's extra care...but like I said...weird. Now that we are in our new home, the shelter in place orders came through and I wonder if we will be hitting the top of the bell curve soon. Hopefully on the downward curve. Since we did just move, unpacking boxes and getting settled in is a top priority and keeps me busy. But lets just say I would rather blog than unpack another box.  Good thing I got my computer hooked up.

So as I look out on the bleak landscape, both figuratively and literally, I look forward to planting Spring flowers and figuring out where I am going to put tomato plants in my new yard. It will be great to watch things green up around here. HOPE springs eternal.

What activities are you doing to weather the "shelter in place" storm? I would love to hear from you! Julie Etta Smith